Domestic violence comes in many forms; it can be emotional or physical, and it can be against a man or a woman. The point is, it can happen to anyone. Even some of the richest, most famous and most powerful people in the world.
In 2014, There have been several celebrities in the news for domestic violence allegations. Rapper Joe Budden was accused of brutally beating his ex-girlfriend. A restraining order was filed by model/ girlfriend Eva Marcille on rapper Kevin McCall less than 6 months after the birth of their daughter Marley. Columbus Short literally had a meltdown this year, we have no idea what it was about, and of course the Ray Rice who literally knocked his wife unconscious. After analyzing all situations, it seems that black men cannot recover from the headlines, media attacks and harsh labels they are given.
A perfect example of this is singer Chris Brown. While his talent is undeniably brilliant, the career of Brown has not been the same since his incident with singer Rihanna. But, white male celebrities with a history of domestic violence such as Sean Penn, Charlie Sheen, Mel Gibson, Nicolas Cage, Tommy Lee, Ozzy Osbourne, Mickey Rourke, and Steven Seagal… I could literally go on for days. These individuals have been involved in incredibly bad situations but some are still are considered A-list celebrities and very rarely are they associated with violence.
Are we being too hard on our black men?
Ex -Baltimore Raven superstar Ray Rice has been a hot topic and fans are on the fence about whether they should defend him or not. Columbus short was literally involved in his own scandal-which has resulted in criminal charges, a lawsuit and his firing from the hit TV show Scandal. On more than one occasion since January, Short has been in the news for threatening to kill his wife and himself.
The topic was such a hot news story, comedian D.L. Hughley was in hot water for defending Short’s behavior. Hughley brings up a point that society is being too hard on Short and men like him.
He stated, “When you’re very young, you’re very volatile. I’ve been in situations where the police were called. I don’t believe that every time someone says something in the heat of anger, they actually mean it. Everybody want a thug dude, a passionate dude, until you gotta live with your mother in an undisclosed location. You know what kind of dude you picked. Stop it.”
Does he have a point? All the men mentioned with the exception of Joe Budden are very young men. Are they just powerful, young and full of aggression that can only be remedied through therapy?
The reality of the situation is clear: More than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day, and those that are abused are nine times as likely to commit suicide. Statistics like this mean it’s important not to shy away from talking about domestic violence, and we cannot allow ANYONE to get away with it.Excusing anyone’s violent behavior is the worst thing you can do for domestic violence prevention and education.