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No Mo-NO!: Comedian Mo’Nique Says We Must Allow Black Men Their Side Chicks




by G. Brown

Controversy seems to follow some people.  Take comedian Mo’Nique for instance.  It’s been months since we’ve seen the former “The Parkers” star at ground zero of a social media storm, but a new storm is brewing.

Various websites and YouTubers are reporting that the Queen of Comedy in a recent performance  turned a bit serious as she petitioned the primarily female that “We  [Black women] need to love our brothers and support our brothers.”  That part was good, but it’s this next gem of advice that left people stunned.  According to, “Mon’Nique told the Black women in the audience to allow their men to have side chicks. According to Mo’Nique, requiring a Black man to be monogamous came out of White supremacy.”

It gets worse.  A young YouTuber named Paris Milan who went to that concert says Mo’Nique told the audience that women need to do whatever their Black kings command to please them and not live in some fantasy world created by White supremacists to control them through marriages and monogamous relationships.

Enough people on social media seem to have had enough of Miss Mo’…













Still, there are always two sides to every debate and Mo’ had quite a few people who agree with her…






Confusing? Yes.  Should we be confused? No, not really when you consider that Mo’Nique and her husband Sidney Hicks went on the record long ago about their “open marriage”.  An Essence magazine article quotes Mo’Nique explaining how she started the open marriage concept in their union because she “had the attitude of whoever makes the money, makes the rules. And, because I’m famous and I have the money I can do whatever I want to do. But then he said to me in the Bahamas, ‘Well mama, you know if you can see other men, I can see other women.’ I said, ‘Well, that’s not what I was talking about because I am the famous one, not you, and I have the money; you can’t do that. But what I had to learn was this thing called reciprocity. And that was very hard for me because my ego would get in the way…

Mo’Nique immediately got pushback from fans who saw the comedian as being used by a man only after her money or saw this philosophy as a cry for help from a woman with self-esteem issues.  She admits some even called her trash. The actress claims she was misunderstood and defined their idea of an open relationship as not just about sex but “… it’s an open relationship in terms of dialogue that you’re having with your spouse, your mate, your sons, your daughters, your mothers, your father… because we always hear ‘be someone important’ or ‘be yourself’ but that’s only when its politically correct—when you’ve fallen into the boundaries of what people expect you to be as opposed to you being yourself when it is against the preverbal norm but what we find is against the norm is really the norm.”

Look, Mo’Nique has always been a brash, outspoken, stand-by-your-man woman–it’s the cornerstone of her comedic career and why so many fans adored her in the first place.  But most people go to her concerts to hear jokes many of which are told as narratives on life. You don’t have to laugh at every joke.  But you also don’t have to take every serious moment too seriously.  If it’s not for you, then it’s not for you.

What do you think…are people asking too much of their celebrities by hanging on to their every word as gospel?  Does Mo’ deserve this latest wave of criticism? Or is she just sharing her truth on the world stage?



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    Denise Bryant

    May 23, 2019 at 1:25 pm

    Negative attention beats none at all and lately, if it wasn’t for the negative we probably wouldn’t be talking about Monique. Taking relationship advice from her is about as stupid as listening to self made advice/relationship guru Steve Harvey or Black life expert Bill Cosby. Gtfoh.

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    May 21, 2019 at 5:05 am

    Why are people taking personal advice fromsomeone that embodies the very esscence of negativity in her life. Shes always in a battle with someone or something, because shes is always right-never wrong.

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    NBA is fixed

    May 19, 2019 at 4:17 am

    Off topic: Breaking news, Steve Harvey has been fired from Family Feud!

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      Shawn J.

      May 20, 2019 at 6:12 pm

      Family Feud had just fired Steve Harvey?! Say it ain’t so!!

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    Anthony allen

    May 18, 2019 at 8:52 am

    Monogamy is a white concept. It was never our heritage.

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    NBA is fixed

    May 18, 2019 at 5:57 am

    Sistas if you marry a rich, successful man, he will cheat on you. What you find attractive in your husband (usually money) is the same thing thousands of other women find attractive. Many of those women will be younger and prettier than you. Don’t hate the player, hate the game.

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    NBA is fixed

    May 18, 2019 at 5:53 am

    Polygamy is legal in many African countries. The concept of “one man, one woman” comes from white Europeans. How many white men abide by the “one man, one woman” law? How many times has Trump cheated on his wife?

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    Crystal L Brooks

    May 17, 2019 at 10:40 pm

    Black women have the highest rates of STD’s of anyone. Do the research on HIV infections. It is dangerous NOT to be monogamous. Sorry…but God did not create us to have multiple partners. Find a wife and stay faithful to her. As we can see, when we deviate from that, it hurts us. She and her husband can do what they want. But don’t try and make it seem like this is normal or should be acceptable.

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    Shawn J.

    May 17, 2019 at 6:07 pm

    I believe that Mo’Nique is just speaking truth on stage, whether some of these critics want to hear the truth or not.

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    May 17, 2019 at 4:21 pm

    I love Mo’ as a comedian, but I would never take personal advice from her. If me and my man decide to have an open relationship, so be it. I think it is inappropriate for someone / anyone to suggest that — that should be encouraged. The ratio of men to women is wide and men are going to do what they want regardless of agreed upon boundaries. Let Mo’ do Mo’ and I’ll do me.

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