by G. Brown
Controversy seems to follow some people. Take comedian Mo’Nique for instance. It’s been months since we’ve seen the former “The Parkers” star at ground zero of a social media storm, but a new storm is brewing.
Various websites and YouTubers are reporting that the Queen of Comedy in a recent performance turned a bit serious as she petitioned the primarily female that “We [Black women] need to love our brothers and support our brothers.” That part was good, but it’s this next gem of advice that left people stunned. According to mtonews.com, “Mon’Nique told the Black women in the audience to allow their men to have side chicks. According to Mo’Nique, requiring a Black man to be monogamous came out of White supremacy.”
It gets worse. A young YouTuber named Paris Milan who went to that concert says Mo’Nique told the audience that women need to do whatever their Black kings command to please them and not live in some fantasy world created by White supremacists to control them through marriages and monogamous relationships.
Enough people on social media seem to have had enough of Miss Mo’…
Still, there are always two sides to every debate and Mo’ had quite a few people who agree with her…
Confusing? Yes. Should we be confused? No, not really when you consider that Mo’Nique and her husband Sidney Hicks went on the record long ago about their “open marriage”. An Essence magazine article quotes Mo’Nique explaining how she started the open marriage concept in their union because she “had the attitude of whoever makes the money, makes the rules. And, because I’m famous and I have the money I can do whatever I want to do. But then he said to me in the Bahamas, ‘Well mama, you know if you can see other men, I can see other women.’ I said, ‘Well, that’s not what I was talking about because I am the famous one, not you, and I have the money; you can’t do that. But what I had to learn was this thing called reciprocity. And that was very hard for me because my ego would get in the way…”
Mo’Nique immediately got pushback from fans who saw the comedian as being used by a man only after her money or saw this philosophy as a cry for help from a woman with self-esteem issues. She admits some even called her trash. The actress claims she was misunderstood and defined their idea of an open relationship as not just about sex but “… it’s an open relationship in terms of dialogue that you’re having with your spouse, your mate, your sons, your daughters, your mothers, your father… because we always hear ‘be someone important’ or ‘be yourself’ but that’s only when its politically correct—when you’ve fallen into the boundaries of what people expect you to be as opposed to you being yourself when it is against the preverbal norm but what we find is against the norm is really the norm.”
Look, Mo’Nique has always been a brash, outspoken, stand-by-your-man woman–it’s the cornerstone of her comedic career and why so many fans adored her in the first place. But most people go to her concerts to hear jokes many of which are told as narratives on life. You don’t have to laugh at every joke. But you also don’t have to take every serious moment too seriously. If it’s not for you, then it’s not for you.
What do you think…are people asking too much of their celebrities by hanging on to their every word as gospel? Does Mo’ deserve this latest wave of criticism? Or is she just sharing her truth on the world stage?